With over 30 years of experience with boys (ages 10-17), Triangle Cross enlists an expert life coach, therapists and mentors to instill principles of family and love, as well as the “Cowboy Code of the West” – an honorable, manly approach to life that is still alive and well in Wyoming. This approach is based on our strong Catholic faith, and we accept families from all Christian traditions. Give us a call to learn more about our unique program at Triangle Cross Boys Ranch.
When a Young Teen Boy Needs Help
Parents looking for effective counseling and therapy methods to help a struggling young teen boy can learn about how we treat Power and Control issues at our therapeutic ranch and wilderness boarding school in WY.
Triangle Cross Ranch understands that parents want to send their son to a safe, monitored environment where he receives personal care, and individual therapies that help heal emotional and mental disorders–whether brought on by trauma, foster care, adoption or family genetics.
And while the young teen boy enrolls our therapeutic residential school and ranch for counseling, treatment, improving his academics, and learning key life skills, Triangle Cross Ranch also helps young boys improve their emotional and physical health.
Recognizing His Power and Control Issues
“Children who struggle with power and control issues manifest this struggle in a variety of ways. Here are just a few:” 1
Ignoring a direct instruction or command
Completing tasks half-way
Using the “silent treatment”
Pushing a limit (for example: child is told to stop throwing the ball in the house, throws it one more time and then stops)
Refusing to eat what is placed before him
Lashing out with anger when reprimanded
Refusing to apologize
“A child with power and control issues only feels worthwhile when he is dominating those around him. He achieves this domination by getting adults to do what he wants or by only doing what he wants to do. He is likely experiencing deep-seated insecurities which are masked by these power plays.” 1
Another therapist shares, “In my experience, this behavior came about for one or more of these reasons: “ 2
1) Kids with underdeveloped lower centers of the brain often experience a lot of failure when others are leading. That’s because those in control usually have no awareness of how to build into the structure (i.e. make subtle modifications) so that such kids can then easily comply and experience success.
So to avoid that dreaded sense of failure, some kids compensate by seizing control of the situation. They’ll insist on doing it “their way.” But their way also works best for their brain, and now makes it impossible to fail by not doing a task as others expect.
2) Kids take control because others (inadvertently) reinforce this distorted sense of power by giving a lot of attention to the negative behavior. Here, the child’s brain may actually register holding the whole family hostage (by refusing to do whatever, and thereby delaying everyone) as giving him a distorted sense of importance. It’s even better if family members become upset. Now he’s even controlling how they act! He’s center-stage as he proves that, again and again, he can turn a whole house upside down. And every time he’s allowed to do that, he further entrenches a brain map that reinforces he’s the boss.
3) Kids take control when they don’t trust those in charge to lead. If that’s so, then a key question to ponder is . . . how did those kids lose that trust in the first place?
Some variables that affect trust are: 1) As parents, we second-guess many of our decision; 2) We’re inconsistent with how we respond; 3) We focus more on the negative, without honoring the present gifts our child has to share; 4) We don’t regularly build into the structure to make it easy to comply.”2
Triangle Cross Ranch Gives Families Healthy Ways to Heal Issues
That’s why Triangle Cross counsels young teen boys who struggle with Power and Control issues. Therapists address your child’s mental and behavioral issues, and create an individual treatment plan for him. We also provide nutritious meals, and healthy outdoor activities on the ranch, and on the trail. We want each young teen boy to experience and learn the lessons of a lifetime, as well as improve his daily life behavior, and relationships back home with family.
Boys Experience Reality Counseling on a Real Working Ranch
On our remote 50,000-acre working cattle ranch and farm located in Wyoming, near Yellowstone National Park, troubled boys receive the individualized attention and reality counseling that they need. Our experienced, caring and committed staff helps teen boys improve their academics, as well as provide them with trade school education.
If you have a loved one or a son struggling with power and control issues, showing at-risk behavior, or signs of emotional distress, call us today. Our caring staff will answer any questions you may have about the program, and our wilderness ranch facilities. Call today to see if Triangle Cross Ranch is right for your son. (307) 645-3322.
We’re here to help!